[bugfix] process account delete synchronously to prevent OOM (#4260)

# Description

- updates account delete processing to handle side-effects synchronously to prevent OOM
- updates account delete processing to check more often if account.IsLocal() for certain deletes / side-effects
- ensures that mutes get removed from database on delete

## Checklist

- [x] I/we have read the [GoToSocial contribution guidelines](https://codeberg.org/superseriousbusiness/gotosocial/src/branch/main/CONTRIBUTING.md).
- [x] I/we have discussed the proposed changes already, either in an issue on the repository, or in the Matrix chat.
- [x] I/we have not leveraged AI to create the proposed changes.
- [x] I/we have performed a self-review of added code.
- [x] I/we have written code that is legible and maintainable by others.
- [x] I/we have commented the added code, particularly in hard-to-understand areas.
- [ ] I/we have made any necessary changes to documentation.
- [ ] I/we have added tests that cover new code.
- [ ] I/we have run tests and they pass locally with the changes.
- [x] I/we have run `go fmt ./...` and `golangci-lint run`.

Reviewed-on: https://codeberg.org/superseriousbusiness/gotosocial/pulls/4260
Co-authored-by: kim <grufwub@gmail.com>
Co-committed-by: kim <grufwub@gmail.com>

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